Atheistville with Mike Smithgall

Leaving Church Doesn’t Have to Be Lonely: Building Atheist Community That Sticks

Atheistville Media Episode 25

Send us a text

 In this episode, we focus on why many secular and humanist meetups don’t last. We hear from longtime organizers about how they rebuilt the social network that people lose after leaving religious institutions. They share how snacks, casual brunches, movies in the park, and simple conversation act as the glue. We look closely at the Black atheist experience and how leaving church means leaving a broader community. This episode offers insights on creating safer, more welcoming spaces for people questioning faith. It offers ideas and encouragement to anyone wanting to connect through secular social practice. 


💬 Viewer Question (to spark discussion)

What kind of social gathering—snacks, games, movie nights, brunch—would help you feel welcomed in a secular community?

📑 Relevant Topics or Chapter Headings

Why secular meetups fade

Role of social habits left behind from church

The Black atheist experience and loss of community

What makes secular meetups last: event variety, leadership, safe space

Building belonging through casual connection

Handling anger, fear, loneliness after leaving religion

📚 Suggested Reading List (3–5 resources, with Amazon links; data from your spreadsheet)

African American Humanism: An Anthology by Norm R. Allen Jr. — Essays and reflections from Black freethinkers exploring secular humanism in the context of race and liberation. https://amzn.to/3GU8O92

Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell — Addresses the psychological challenge and social isolation of leaving authoritarian religion. https://amzn.to/3GqjZ9l

Living the Secular Life by Phil Zuckerman — Explores how nonreligious people find meaning and morality without faith. https://amzn.to/4jxluQt

Godless Americana: Race and Religious Rebels by Sikivu Hutchinson — Examines atheism through race and gender in the Black experience. https://amzn.to/45iA2yD

Visit us at www.Atheistville.com for more content from Mike Smithgall and the Atheistville team

📺 Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@atheistville

💬 Want to be a guest or submit a question? Drop us a note at CONTACT

Check us out at: https://atheistville.buzzsprout.com

🔥 New episodes weekly from Atheistville — Mike Drop with Mike Smithgall, Ask an Atheist, and The Unholy Roundtable

© 2025 Atheistville Media